Difficulties in Parental Rewarding of Studies

Every human being wants acknowledgement and appreciation especially for his hard work.

As children are immature and excited, they like acknowledgement and appreciation even more.

Even verbal appreciation is a reward. It can get easily more than verbal like an additional pat on the back or more.

Children are in formative stage of their life. Their behaviors can be moulded for better. It is necessary to encourage desirable and discourage undesirable behaviors of a child. Reward and punishment are two opposing methods that may be used for this purpose. When used with a child, rewards and withholding rewards is better than punishment or fear of punishment.

Parental Association and Role

Parents are the most important authority and influence for a child. Association between parents and their child is not only psychological but also biological. It is characterized by great love and association.

Parents have a great interest in well being of their children. But others won’t be interested typically. They have their own children to care for.

Parents are both natural providers and up-bringers for their children.

Social and Family Influences

Emphasis on studies varies with social and family influences. Highly educated parents who earn based on their high education are likely to be more particular about education of their children. Example of such parents include university professors. School and peer influence are also important. Quality of education in schools varies a lot. A child is also influenced by the company of other children especially if it is regular.

Rewarding can have a positive effect on the behavior of a child. You can use it to improve academic performance of a child.

Parents are in the best position to use such rewarding. Yet, there are some difficulties they may face in doing this.

The rest of this article identifies and mentions such difficulties in some detail.

1) Number of behaviors to reward at a time

Don’t use rewards for over one behavior at a time. If parents try to influence many behaviors of their child same time, child may lose motivation and interest towards such changes. Target important behaviors. Try to influence only one behavior at a time by using rewards. Using reward for a desirable behavior change doesn’t mean that you cannot advise your child over other things.

2) Size of a reward

Don’t use rewards that are too small or too big. Use both smaller and bigger rewards for study improvement.  You may use a smaller reward for study goal of a day and a bigger reward for study goal of a week. The goal may also be like getting a better grade in a test or exam. Reward your child only when he has done the task he is to do.

You may use as simple a reward as a chocolate or ice-cream but only if you know that it will be enough to motivate your child to study more. Chocolate and ice-cream are easy to get. A child may not take them worth his greater effort for his studies.

3) Identifying rewards

Your rewards can get mixed with other things that you provide to your child. Keep your rewards separate and distinct from other things that you provide. Rewards can vary and must be things that the child likes especially.

4) Child may take rewards for granted

Some parents provide everything that their children ask them for. This makes children take such things for granted. It is best to have a balanced approach. Provide your child with certain things but withhold others for a later time. Deny them a few things altogether. It is important to be both firm and loving in dealing with your child.

5) Frequency of rewarding

If you use rewards commonly they may lose their value and influence for a child. Its frequency should not be more than once a day.

6) Remaining involved with your child’s studies

For all this to happen properly, you will need to have a close involvement with the studies of your child. Otherwise, you won’t be able to know exactly the effect rewards are having on studies of your child.

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